Remind David and Frank that you entered parenthood with the agreement that it would be the three of you, and while it is not your place to cap the number of persons with whom they chose to couple, your child will not have infinite fathers as a result.
Do I need to back off and trust my husband’s judgment on this? Even so, I feel like it’s not my call to make. The plan is to wait and have the discussion in person when the kids are with us for Thanksgiving, but I just can’t shake the feeling that this issue is more urgent than that. He also refused to make a stink about the alcohol because “what can he do from here?” and then Cathy would “just stop telling him things, and what would that solve?” We’ve reached a stalemate, and I feel helpless. I counter that he’d be livid if he found out that her mom knew about the pills and didn’t tell him. I think that it is critical that my husband let their mom know ASAP that Cathy had been taking sleeping pills, and may still be using them, especially if she’s consuming alcohol (which is its own area of concern.) He’s worried that if her mom finds out about the sleeping pills, she’ll go off the rails and will make Cathy’s life miserable to an unfair degree, so he refuses to confront Cathy while she’s in her mom’s house. And it continues: Cathy called her dad the other day, and confessed that her mom has been letting her drink hard lemonades. She’s always been a good hardworking kid, and we figured she just needed to rest over the summer-but obviously more was going on. (We rarely use them, which is why it took a while to discover their absence.) She’d been sleeping in super late every day, but we just chalked it up to her being 17. She had taken them from our medicine cabinet.
After the kids left at the end of the summer, we discovered an empty bottle of sleeping pills in Cathy’s room.
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